Val Selby [00:00:06]:
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Val Selby [00:00:36]:
Hello. Hello. Hello. Thanks for being here in Val Full Volume. I'm Val, and I just wanted to chat with you today about some verbiage, I guess, some words. I'm trying to think back to words that would be just like, well, for one, I really didn't know what they were, what they meant kinda thing. And for two, the people that were talking about them, I just assumed, oh, this is so far advanced for me. There's no way I'm ever gonna go there. So I wanna go with JV right now because how many do you know what having a JV means? And I don't mean junior varsity or not go sports.

Val Selby [00:01:21]:
I mean, a joint venture. For me, for the longest time, I would hear it's a JV opportunity. It's a JV opportunity. I'd be like, oh, since I don't know what that is, that must be, like, way out of my comfort zone. So all JV is is joint venture. Something that you do with somebody else or multiple someone else's. It's a collaboration. It could be as an affiliate.

Val Selby [00:01:52]:
It could be swapping podcasts as guests. It could be, oh gosh. Let me go ahead and just speed a listing. It could be, of course, being in somebody's event. Could be in somebody's summit bundle giveaway. That's a JV opportunity. It could be a blog swap where you are guest posting on each other's blog. It could be swapping freebies.

Val Selby [00:02:20]:
So you advertise somebody's freebie on your email list and they advertise it on their email list. It's anything that you are doing in a collaboration with somebody else or, like I said, multiple someone else's. So that's JV. That's JV. I can't believe how big I blew it up in my head in way back, but in years back. For some reason, just the joint venture thing was just like, oh my gosh. That's only when you have this or that or when you're making the big bucks or, you know, all of that. It's like, what was wrong with me for having that thought in my head? So I can kinda look back and think, well, maybe part of it was I did know a lot of JV managers.

Val Selby [00:03:16]:
And when you have a JV manager, you've got some success going on. So I think I probably associated it like that part together. Or it's like, okay. You're doing JVs, which means that you need a JV manager, which means that you're making money to bring in these people, and I know that my friends that were JV managers were making good money back in the day when I was first finding out about it. And so there we go. I bet I just rabbit trailed down how it was blown up so big in my head. It's association. It was the people I was hanging out with.

Val Selby [00:03:50]:
Weird. So that said, it's kind of ironic that I am a JV manager certified because I just wanted to add that extra on top for what I already was doing by recruiting for people's events and managing their events. You know? I just wanted to add that cherry on top. So it's kind of funny that, yeah, JV for me was just like one of those things where it's just like, what in the world? Oh, I'll never be able to do that. So I'm gonna try and come up with other words that might be similar. So if you have words that you have a block up against, hit me up. Let me know. I'd love to jump on here and talk about them.

Val Selby [00:04:32]:
If you wanna jump on and talk about it with me, I'm more than happy to do that. But there's so many words in our brains just, like, do a human freak out. And it's like, what the hell? Like, me in meditation, I can call it mind quiet, and my brain is like, oh, yeah. Let's do that. As soon as I'm gonna meditate, my brain is less like, we don't we gotta do all this. We gotta think about all this. We've gotta do this, that, that, that. And it doesn't want to quiet.

Val Selby [00:05:05]:
Like, when I say, we're gonna just have a mind quiet time. Okay? It is so crazy what our brains do. There's meditation is one of the big ones, and that's the always the one that sticks out for me as giving an example. I know that I have another one too, and I can't think of it, so I must have gotten over it. Awesome. But what words are, like, trigger words that your brain just wants to instantly say, oh, hell no. We are not doing that. Even words like webinar, you know, kind of what it is, but it's used in so many different ways.

Val Selby [00:05:48]:
And there's, I think, there's a quite a bit of negative connotation with webinar, the word webinar now that it kinda feels 'uhhh' like to some of us. I know, I - yeah. I know I'm, like, thinking of the word right now, and I'm like, oh my god. I don't wanna do a webinar. Is that not a summit presentation? Is that not even just me right now recording a podcast? I mean, it's just a recording. That's what a webinar is. It's a recording, but it feels like, oh, feels like a little bit of ew. Like, oh, I don't wanna do that.

Val Selby [00:06:26]:
That sounds so uptight. It is so not me. It's like, it's a word. Brain? Why do you have to put these weird connotations on a word, brain? Stop. Stop. So I wanna know if there's words that you don't really kinda know exactly what they are. You might have a roundabout idea. I'd love it if you passed on any of those words.

Val Selby [00:06:54]:
I would especially love it if you have words like webinar or meditation. Any words that you know are like a trigger word that your brain just says, nope. Not doing it. Nope. That's how my brain is for meditation, except where it's like, nope. Nope. Nope. Nope.

Val Selby [00:07:11]:
Nope. Nope. I would love to hear those words because I really work with clients because I work on myself with it. When a word, like, gets me 'uhhh' feeling and the shoulders are cringey. When it when a word's making me cringey, then I really like to be like, okay. Maybe it's always gonna be cringey, and that's gonna be okay. What else can we find for another word that's the same thing that we could call it, and our brain doesn't do that. Like, meditation, it's cringey to me for some reason.

Val Selby [00:07:45]:
I don't even want - I don't even wanna figure out why, but mind quiets, when I figured out that all it was was quieting my mind and I said, okay. It's a mind quiet. That's okay. And it's the same thing. It's the same thing. It just doesn't set a brain off in this weird thing. So I'm gonna come up with some other words. I'm gonna think of some other words.

Val Selby [00:08:12]:
I know I have another one, a couple that are coming to mind as more cringey. I don't think JV was cringey. I think it was just it's a big word because some people don't know. I didn't know exactly what it was to begin with. So I would love to talk about different terms and what they mean, and multiple - they can, usually have multiple means. I mean, of course, everything in the English language has multiple meanings. We we're so pain in the butt about that. Let's end with oh god.

Val Selby [00:08:48]:
We've got flies in the house already because it's so cold. So cold. This is the spring is ending very chilly and wet. Anyways, JV, JV, collaborations. I would love it if you took that word, figure out which word, joint venture, collaboration. Those are the ones I use all the time, so my brain just went, but after that. Which word can you embrace and use and put on your list all of the time? Every day, you should be talking to people. You should be talking to people all the time about your business and what you do.

Val Selby [00:09:28]:
And the more that you talk about it, the easier it gets, the more comfortable it gets. And I know one of the main issues, especially for those of us online, is the fact that we are not physically talking about our business. We're a lot, you know, if you're not doing videos or lives or podcasts or anything like that, then you are not talking about your business. You're writing about your business a lot. And, yes, writing is powerful. I mean, we know journals and to do lists, the power is in the writing, but voicing things is also powerful and we should be using everything we've got to bring our internal power out. So talk to people about what you do. Tell people about your business.

Val Selby [00:10:21]:
Just talk about your business. Get that elevator speech out. I do have an elevator speech, little mini guide workshop in the Collaborate and Grow membership. But get that out and get used to saying it over and over and over again. How you get better at things is repetition. And the great thing is when you first start doing the elevator pitch, when somebody asks, oh, what do you do? That's the elevator pitch. What do you do? Well, what are you going to tell them when they ask you that? The more you are saying it over and over again, the clearer it gets to you. The clearer the words start forming and you get a little bit more of, oh, this is what I do.

Val Selby [00:11:09]:
Wait. This popped out of my mouth. Oh, I like that one even better. It's not gonna be perfected immediately, but the more that you say it, the better you will get at it and the more detailed you will get. So it's slimmed down every time you say it. Alright. So now I'm starting to squirrels. So add collaboration, talking about your business to your to do list every day.

Val Selby [00:11:35]:
It's a money task. Add it to there. Look for the joint ventures that you can do. Friends, people you don't know yet, go introduce yourself, have conversation, get out there and get your business known more. You have that extra power to do that. Okay? So I'm going to head out and go write down some more words. I wanna figure out some other words that might be cringey and come back and talk to you about them in the upcoming weeks. Alright.

Val Selby [00:12:06]:
Later.