Val Selby [00:00:06]:
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Val Selby [00:00:36]:
Welcome. Hello. So happy to have you here at Val Full Volume. I'm Val, and I wanna talk about this little topic about wearing all the hats. This topic came up because there was somebody looking for podcast guests, and they were talking about, does anybody wanna come and talk about wearing all the hats? And I chirped in, smart alecky like, but truthfully said, I'd love to talk about the fact that I don't wear all the hats anymore. And that turned into a what? So I'm recording that podcast tomorrow with that host. So I'm excited about that. I don't know if it's actually gonna go down that route or not. We'll see. Because, honestly, I don't think that's the route after filling out the form that that's gonna go.

Val Selby [00:01:31]:
I just don't feel like it is. But it got me thinking. I'm like, wearing all the hats. Oh my gosh. Wearing all of the hats. Changing all of the hats. Keeping track of all of the hats. Blows your mind.

Val Selby [00:01:45]:
Blows my mind. It overwhelms me to think of all of the hats. So I did look this up. You know, I don't always do that ahead of time, but I did look this up and found out the saying of wearing all of the hats came to be in mid 19th century, and it makes sense. It was because different professions wore different hats. Right? Everybody was wearing hats back in the day. For fashion as well as status as well as just plain needing to keep the sun off, keep the weather off, no matter what the weather was, keeping the weather off, in different professions, like I started, different professions had different hats. And so that's where the wearing of the different hats came to be.

Val Selby [00:02:42]:
Right? I mean, you had the bakers, you had, you know, cowboys, you had chefs, bakers, you know, policemen, firemen. Yes. I said man because that's what it was back then, mid century. Mid 19th century. There was not women there. So they wore their hats, and it was definitely a sign of what their profession was. So that just grew. Right? And then it grew into having many talents, and I guess it's not really, technically, when I look it up, it's not a negative thing.

Val Selby [00:03:23]:
However, how our mind and body reacts to a phrase or saying is all we need to know. And when I think of swapping all of the hats, like I said, when I think of all the hats, I am freaking overwhelmed. So I don't want to be swapping hats anymore. I just want to wear my one hat. Maybe it's my crown. Maybe it's a crown. I just want to wear my one hat because all of these different jobs that I do, mom, housekeeper, not really good at it, but it's still a job, housekeeper, doggy mommy, CEO of the company, social manager of the company, podcaster, YouTuber, event host, coach, business coach, daughter, all of those things are technically hats now. Right? Well, all of those hats make up me.

Val Selby [00:04:30]:
So here is where I think my brain rebels against the concept of the hats. And it's not just because thinking of all of the different hats overwhelms me. It's like, where the hell am I gonna put all these hats? Who's dusting all of the hats? I don't wanna dust all of the hats. The issue for me when I start diving into it, the issue for me is the concept that, okay, if I'm wearing all of the hats, I can only wear one hat at a time, which means that I have to take that hat off and put another hat on. That's not how life works. And it sure as hell not how mom life works. There was never a single time where you were wearing just one hat while raising the kids. Never. Never.

Val Selby [00:05:27]:
They were all on your head at once because your teacher, your mommy, your daughter, your cooking, your cleaning, your running your business, or you're doing your career, any of the above, and all of those hats are just stacked on top of your head. Because there is not time to be picking and choosing and just wearing one hat. There's not. So the concept to me of wearing all of the hats, having all of the hats, it's just not helpful for moving forward. I guess I could say it that way. I don't feel like it's helpful for moving forward because it leads us to believe that we need to focus on one thing at a time, and that's just not how any of this works, just like that commercial. I love that commercial. It's not how this works.

Val Selby [00:06:23]:
It's not how any of this works. There's not enough time to sit there and put on my social media hat. Oh, take that off. Oh, event host hat. Oh, take that off. Now I need to be social media manager again. Bullshit. I want one hat.

Val Selby [00:06:40]:
I want one hat. I want my Val hat, my big girl hat. Like I said, probably, if I'm gonna be real, I want a fucking crown, not a tiara. I want crown. Girl's a queen. I ain't no princess. I'm full queen. I'm priestess.

Val Selby [00:06:59]:
But I just want one because I am all of those things, and I embrace that I am all of those things. I do know. Yes, it's a lot. But I know that all of those things are happening at once. I don't want the reminder that, okay, it's time to switch this. Oh my gosh. I'm switching to this.

Val Selby [00:07:17]:
Oh my god. I've worn 500 hats today. I don't want that. I want to know that it is okay, and I give myself permission, it is okay to wear one hat of my whatever it looks like. You can wear a crown and tiara, whatever you wanna wear. I'm going to wear the one hat, and that one hat encompasses everything about me. I don't have to keep switching the hats.

Val Selby [00:07:46]:
Switching the hats exhausting to me. That concept of switching the hats. Because especially when we are in our business I mean, we are moving back and forth through things in our business, creating one funnel sequence, whatever we're doing, and we are flying through different tabs. Am I right? Bundle Bash is moving to an all in one, but there's still gonna be other tabs that are gonna be open because I have to record videos here. I have to record podcasts here. There's going to be other tabs. I feel like all of those tabs are my visual of those hats. And so to me, it's kinda like, umm, I really don't like having a ton of tabs.

Val Selby [00:08:34]:
I know it's clutter. I know that it's not keeping my business simple when I have all of the tabs open. So I think that that's, you know, yet another reason why all of the hats kind of concept is just like, we are all of these things, but why do we have to identify as just one at a time? Why? It's impossible. Right? It's impossible to just identify as one thing at any one time. Because even right now, they're napping, but I'm a doggy mommy. I'm a website designer because I'm gonna go and move everything over and start building from scratch over on the new platform. I'm podcaster right now. I mean, even right now, just in the next hour, I'm gonna be swapping hats like crazy.

Val Selby [00:09:29]:
So I want to ask you, is it just me? Is it just me that's like, I don't wanna wear all the hats. It could be, and I'm okay with that. I don't have a problem with that. Or is it a phrase that you take a look at it and you don't even know, but you, like, cringe up. Right? Like, shoulders up. Start to tense a little bit of anxiety. We don't really have to have a reason, and we don't have to analyze any of it. I just, of course, I kind of like to do that.

Val Selby [00:10:02]:
Kinda like to bring stuff up and test it and talk it out and talk it out loud right here, right now. I really hadn't thought it through until I hit record. And then I'm like, oh, well, let's see where this leads. And I found the two places that it's leading. It's leading on the fact that it makes me feel overwhelmed to think of all of the titles that I have. It's overwhelming. And that that's even though they're positive things, it's still overwhelming. It's like, I don't think I need everything listed out.

Val Selby [00:10:42]:
And the second part being that concept that I can only be one thing at one time. So I can only be a social media manager right now. I can only be a podcaster right now. It feels I don't know. I guess it's the opposite of overwhelmed words. I guess it's feeling claustrophobic like putting me in a box. Oh, it's putting me in a box. That's why.

Val Selby [00:11:10]:
Because then I have to be in this box, then I have to be in that box. That's the concept of the hats. Right? It's like right now, I'm doing this. Right now, I'm doing that. And I don't know. Maybe that would be fabulous if that was the way that we got to do things. But even when I was doing services for others and consulting for others, it still didn't work that way because I still had to get into different aspects of everything and be this person, this person, this person, this person. So it's not a rant.

Val Selby [00:11:41]:
I don't know what today is. It's not a rant. I guess it's just a mindset meld like thing of, how does it affect you? Does it even affect you? I hope that it wasn't affecting you and now it is. I hope I didn't just make it affect you. Because if it didn't affect you before, don't let it affect you now. It's, in the grand scheme of things, it's really not that big of a deal. For me, I just know that it just was something that popped into my head, and I'm just like, I am damn tired of this hat concept. I don't wanna. I don't want it.

Val Selby [00:12:13]:
I don't want that hat concept. I don't want to be the wearer of all of the hats. I mean, my mind is immediately going envisioning all of the hats stacked straight up on top of my head and how heavy that would be. And that's why I just want my one heavy crown. This is the one. This is, this is me. I do all the things. Val does all the things and I'm okay with that.

Val Selby [00:12:39]:
I'm okay with that. Not even okay with that. The control issue girl, loves that. Just one hat, so I can control it all. Control the world. Alright. I know. Just a little bit off center.

Val Selby [00:12:55]:
Off to I don't even know what direction. I don't think it's even center. Running out, out into the wild going, yeah. The randomness that pops into Val's head sometimes. This is it. This is it. Thanks for being here. I am excited.

Val Selby [00:13:14]:
We're gonna have some guests incoming again. Got a few guests lined up while I'll be recording, so I'm not sure if all of them will be in this year. I think some of them will probably be more into January, but I know we've got guests incoming very soon, and I look forward to that. I love sitting here and talking, and it's pretty easy for me to come up with topics. Sometimes weird random ones like today. But it's just as much fun. I wouldn't say it's more fun. It's just as much fun to get on here and chat with others on the podcast and pick their brain and just have that conversation that we can have with anybody and anywhere in the world now because we can just do it via the Internet.

Val Selby [00:14:05]:
Love that. So much fun. If you would like to be a guest on here, just reach out. Information's gonna be in the show notes. I would love to chat with you, and let's see if it's a good fit. Listen to a few of the episodes, and you'll know if it's gonna be a good fit or not, but I will chat at you next week. Thanks for being here.