Hey! Nice to meet you.
I’m Val Selby, the entrepreneur.
I am a business owner, coach, and podcaster.
I’m also the GFWC Valley Volunteers Club President.
But if we met in person – I might not always tell you all these things. I might introduce myself as a daughter, wife, or mother but not always self-identifying myself and my strengths.
We so often find ourselves giving to others. Helping others and labeling ourselves without taking ownership of who WE really are.
Val’s digging into this and working through those labels we blurt out because we’ve had them on autopilot for so long. It’s hard to re-work that part of our brain but being aware of it makes it easier to change. It’s time to start thinking about ourselves and relabeling ourselves to what our needs are.
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“I can’t live two lives. This is me.”
A lot of good stuff in this episode! I think it’s hard not to lapse into certain roles, like Mother or Daughter, when you are with those family members. Sometimes they refuse to let you grow into the person you were meant to be. Their shadow is too intense and you need to find your own place in the sun! But, still your origins are there with them and they have a grip that it can be hard to loosen. And equally hard, if not harder, to not repeat the patterns with your own children. While holding on to all the positives that make up family. Phew! Continual work in progress I think.
I agree it’s a constant work in progress. Heck, Sunday I just really, realized the people pleasing that has been passed down to me. Like it smacked me upside the head and I can now make sure I’m no longer a part of it nor enabling it nor doing it myself. PROGRESS!